Does anyone else feel like September has been going for 5 years? Just me, then? Seriously, September has been a long month but we have eaten good! I am ready for October. It’s going to be just as busy as September was, but *hopefully* won’t be as hot.
October brings so many exciting things in my life: fall leaves, six birthdays (including my own and my twin sister’s) cooler weather (eventually) and Halloween (my official kick off to the holiday season.)
In my long September I was blessed to attend a conference in San Antonio, TX sponsored and hosted by DairyMax Inc. It was such a good experience learning about the health benefits of dairy foods and how to incorporate more dairy foods into the diet without just drinking more milk. And the food…. So. Much. Food. And all of it delicious! I really enjoyed the fact that there were Chef/Registered Dietitians who spoke and presented cooking demonstrations. I had to include a couple recipes on my October menu that I got to sample at the conference. The creamy chicken tortilla soup with guacamole and the Indian Dahi aloo with Chicken were both presented by Chef Todd Seyfarth from Johnson & Wales University. They are so good. I hope you’ll step out of your comfort zone and try those.
Here is my October Menu:
Recipes collected on my October 2019 Menu Pinterest board.
And here’s one you can print: October 2019 Menu.jpg Please feel free to print and use these menus. Use your white-out and replace any foods you don’t like or won’t eat. I share these menus on my blog so that people can use them because I know how difficult it can be sometimes to decide “what’s for dinner.”
Leading nutrition authorities, as well as MyPlate, recommend that all Americans over 9 years of age enjoy 3 daily servings of dairy. Find it hard to work in that much dairy? Try this easy smoothie bowl! Click the picture to go to the recipe by DairyMax.
Meaning of Resilience / Having a Vision for Your Child
Help your child bounce back and have a bright future!
Divorce can be a traumatic experience for children. Children’s old routines and rituals have been disrupted and new routines and rituals must be created to help ease the transition for your child. As a parent, it’s important to be aware of your child’s emotions and how they are responding to these changes. Children respond differently to their parents divorce. You and your co-parent know your child best! Stay attuned to their needs and help them overcome the challenges they face. The trauma from divorce can produce bad things for children, but you can help them overcome these challenges and be resilient by bouncing back and overcoming this difficulty.
What does resilience mean to you?
- Speedy recovery
- Bouncing back
- Overcoming problems and challenges
Divorce doesn’t have to be a death sentence. There are things you can do to lessen the impact of divorce on your child to help them bounce back and have a bright future. However, there are also things you can do that will cause your child to have a much more difficult time.
Keep in mind your vision for your child. Having a vision and setting goals will allow you to take control of your situation and lead you and your children on the path you desire. You can’t control your co-parent, but knowing where you are going will allow you to respond to some of the challenges you face and help you relate to your co-parent through this vision for your children.
Child success is predicted by how parents parent after the divorce. Stress from the divorce can often change the way you parent. Remember to use a balanced style of parenting which is high on emotional expression, love, and support for the child’s needs and best interests. Establish new routines and rituals to help your child adjust to the divorce. Be there for your child when he or she needs to talk and let them externalize their emotions and feelings about the divorce. Although it may be hard to hear, allowing them to share what they are feeling is key to helping them bounce back and have a bright future.
Balanced parenting also involves firm but appropriate discipline and open conversations about why the child is being disciplined.
When parents use balanced parenting, children tend to be:
- Able to make their own decisions
September is “National Family Meals Month” and I want to take this opportunity to encourage you to eat with your families! Not just in September, but all year round. I know how hard it can be when you’ve got kids and all their activities. Schedules get hectic, so let me ease your mind on the subject. A family meal is at least 2 people from the same family sitting down to eat a meal together, without watching TV or playing on devices the whole time. If you can get the whole family together, that’s great! If you can get one parent and one child, that’s good too! Do not over-complicate the idea of family meals. Just try to sit down and eat with each other as often as possible.